FB Live – Why You Should Dream Big

A dream is the idea that what you want isn’t in your hand.  Dream big and plan with it.

I was at my desk and hungry.  The idea of eating sounded good.  So I got up to get my lunch.  There are steps involved.  You dream, then make it happen.

My dreaming big is a trip to Canada.  My Kid1 wants to go to Canada.  For Christmas he wasn’t dreaming big.  He was stuck in the frame of scarcity I have raised him in.  He was afraid to ask for something I couldn’t afford.

When you think you can’t have something because it’s too big, you limit yourself.  Dream bigger than the limits you are placing on yourself. When you dream big and think of it as a possibility, it is given the opportunity to happen.

Make your dreams bigger than what is easily attained and you’ll see the efforts you make become strong enough to meet your goals. You will create your own miracles when you don’t limit your belief in yourself.  Be optimistic.

Look at the opportunities in front of you and know they are a great step toward the future.  Know what you’ve been given in the past and acknowledge that as well.  It’ll help you spot the moments and gifts you are offered.

You don’t need the help of others. You accept it, but know that the source of your vision is within you, and not at the complete mercy of someone else.


FB Live – Do Whatever It Takes or Take Whatever Excuse You’re Handed

My son was making many excuses for not calling me.  I explained that when you want to do something, you’ll do whatever it takes.  When you don’t want to do something, you take any excuse you can.

It’s a great barometer to see if you are where you want to be. Are you taking the excuse or making things happen?

Decide what matters to you.  What is valuable to you? The moment you decide something is an obstacle or an excuse is the moment you realize what you want.  Are you doing something you want to do or is it for someone else?

I don’t want my son to make excuses.  I wanted him to own the voice telling him he wasn’t ready to talk to me.  If he’s making excuses, he’s lying about choosing to do something he really doesn’t want to do.  I want him to own that.  I want my son to grow up knowing that what he knows, thinks and feels has value to me.

FB Live – Self Care Means Stop Hitting Yourself

I had a in person conversation where a co-worker kept telling me how stuck she was in life.  She was a victim to the needs of her life.  She felt confined. I kept thinking, “stop hitting yourself.”

Do what feels right, but don’t do what others are forcing you to do.

Be more human and if in doubt, be more dog.

Dogs don’t hurt themselves.  They do what feels good but if they get cornered, they fight or back down.  They don’t try to harm themselves.

Choose the life you want to live.  I am my own motivation and my only roadblock.  I can choose to go big or go small.  I can set my goals and raise those to bigger goals.  No one can force you unless you choose that.

It’s the same with bad habits. I used to be a 3 pack a day smoker.  It was a habit I had to quit on my own.  No one could force that unless I chose to do it.  It’s the same with nail biting.  I’m bigger than a habit. I get to break that.  The same goes for you.  You get to break a habit because you are bigger than the repeated habit of what you do.

You get two lives.  The second comes the moment you realize the one life is the only one you get.  You’re the Captain of your life.  Stop hitting yourself. Be more dog.


FB Live – Be Present and In the Moment

Hot Mess Monday.  It’s about being present in the moment.  What do you do to stay present?

In sipping my coffee I get to enjoy the warmth and taste. I get to listen to nature outside.  I get to enjoy being and not worrying about how I look.  Being present means embracing how I feel because being alive is a gift.

At any given moment I’m given so many reminders of my value in the lives of others.  Being present means being okay with the way things are, rather than a past that brings sorrow or a future filled with anxiety.

The moments you take and make yours are the ones that matter.  When you offer your time as an empowered person, not a victim to your past or future, this is where you find your power. This is where you belong and are loved.

I had a transparent and authentic moment where I wasn’t hiding and fully exposed feelings I felt shame for.  I was met with acceptance and that open appreciation of my honesty was everything.